The Kundalini Consortium
July 5, 2013

Love and the Ego
By Neven Paar

People talk about the Ego and its role in the Kundalini awakening process. To be clear, you don't abolish your Ego while in the physical body. You only seek to tame it and use it instead of being used and abused by it. The only way to abolish your Ego is to destroy the physical body, which will serve against you as you need it as a vehicle for navigating the material world. The Ego is attached to the physical body, and let's face it; nobody wants to die physically.

Instead, let's try to understand the Ego instead and learn to master it. The question I always like to ask myself is, "How does this particular action or utterance affect the big picture? Positively or negatively? Is it useful or not useful?" If it only helps me, it's an Ego action. If it helps others or positively affects a situation, it's of the Higher Self.

The Universe makes the formula very simple. If our actions are positive, and the change is directed outside ourselves towards other people, it triggers the love principle, and unity is attained. This type of action is most favourable as it induces the most bliss. If the action is directed towards the personal Self alone, with no focus outside the Self, it affects the Ego only. It is Self-directed, and it attaches itself to our Wheel of Karma, binding the Ego further to the consciousness. This type of action makes the illusion of Self greater.

With this in mind, one needs to focus on making a positive change in other people's lives, which will subdue the Ego and exalt the Higher Self. Ask yourself, "What do I gain from this action?" Often it's as simple as hearing yourself speak. Checking your Ego is This is tough work as it requires you to question everything you do, always.

If you really intend to help other people, and your Ego has come to terms with it, it's easier to do the right thing. And that's the best part.

The formula is counterintuitive for the Ego. The more you help others, and the less you focus on yourself, the more love and unity you feel with all things. As a result, you will experience more bliss. You may not believe it before you see it, though. The Ego is faithless, and when it doesn't get its way, it gets angry like a child who doesn't get what they want.

The best actions are those with no attachments. If the Ego has nothing to lose—as in the case of helping others—then it's able to be used by the Higher Self. If there is something to lose, the action is tainted, and the principle of love is compromised. In other words, you can't have your cake and eat it too, as the saying goes. You have to let go of one to achieve the other.

The Ego operates in terms of opposites. It wants to create pleasure for itself and avoid pain. Let's look at these two primary opposites that drive our lives since pain and pleasure are different aspects of the same thing. How we experience them depends on how the mind perceives the material world.

A full Kundalini awakening creates a bridge between the conscious and subconscious minds. By bridging the conscious with the subconscious, the swing from pleasure to pain increases exponentially, giving rise to mental ailments. However, in a Kundalini activated person, this process is only temporary. It serves to eradicate negative memories that act as a wall between the world of pure potential and the limits created by the mind in its quest for survival.

The Self that has survived is the Ego. With the influx of the Kundalini Fire within the Aura, the Ego slowly starts to dissipate. This process occurs because the Ego exists in the waters of your body, within your memories. And your Emotional Self is a result of your memories. What happens when you apply heat to water? The water starts to purge itself of impurities. They begin to evaporate and leave the system.

In the same way, when the Kundalini Fire is applied to your memories, it begins the process of purging. And the Ego knows that by purging memory, you are also removing the hold the Ego has over the consciousness. If there is no pain or fear present inside you, the Ego cannot identify itself. As such, it drops away. It is not annihilated, but its impact on the consciousness lessens drastically.

The eternal witness of the Now—your real Self—stands aside as the Ego feels the pain of knowing that in its death lies real life. It took many years for the Ego to develop. As every action has an equal and opposite reaction, know that it will take many years for it to be extinguished as well. This process is normal, as is the accumulation of pain and fear over time. Once the pain of the Ego is cleared, consciousness is free to experience the pure emotion of the Void. This type of energy causes rapture in the heart, which the Ancients call Nirvana.

Let's look at love in terms of how this particular emotion affects the mind and curbs the Ego. Positive thoughts can only be induced by love. Love is the driving force that inspires one to reconcile a negative, fear-based thought. Love acts as the force of fusion between two opposing ideas, completely neutralizing them and removing fear, the driving force behind all negative thoughts.

At the Crown Chakra, this process is voluntary and continuous. Hence, the Crown is considered the ultimate in consciousness and being void of Ego. Fear exists only on the mental level of duality and, as shared in an earlier article, can be likened to False Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR). In other words, it is a lack of understanding or an improper interpretation of events. The only way to interpret an event is through love. The lack of love creates fear, which creates Karma since Karma exists as a safeguard to our Spiritual Body. Karma may be likened to memories of events improperly interpreted due to lack of understanding, and the fear it created. Take away the fear, and you are left with faith. Through faith, you will find love. This process is the ultimate in human understanding.

By removing fear, you are left with its opposite—love. And once you are in love, you have safely traversed the mind-plane and entered the Heart Chakra, the first point of Non-Duality. In this state, every moment is felt as rapture, and the Kingdom of Heaven has been attained. In this state, you sit at the right hand of God and are a King or Queen in Heaven, metaphorically speaking. Here is the Truth behind all of Jesus Christ's teachings. It is no wonder that Jesus is depicted as having a Heart of gold and a halo around his head. He completed the Kundalini awakening process and came to tell others of it. He knew it was the ultimate step to enhancing human evolution.

How to balance yourself? Learn to let go of trying to control your reality. By learning to let go, you will develop faith, which will serve to extinguish the Ego over time. There are various other ways as well, but always check yourself by asking, "Who is feeling the pain? The Self or the Ego?" Over time, you will polarize in the real Self and pain and pleasure will both dissolve into an eternal rapture that is the Glory of God.